Nicci Morris

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Sunday Sunset: The Power Of Positivity And Silence

In Lifestyle, Love/Relationships, Spirituality on January 23, 2012 at 1:48 am

Watch this with your eyes but listen with your soul. Do you see yourself within this? If you find that you are often a bearer of bad news or your instinct is to criticize, try something new right now. Let’s do it together and see the difference it makes in our lives.

Make it a wonderful week…

Love,

Do you G.L.O.W.?

In Lifestyle, Love/Relationships, Spirituality on January 10, 2012 at 12:58 pm

Compliments are nice.

It feels good to hear words of approval from other people. Perhaps someone loves your shoes, the way your hair looks or the way you led a project at work. Many of us want to be acknowledged when we do something well.

The compliment I have been receiving as of late is, “You have a glow about you…” I love that. Not because they are stroking my ego. What I feel when I hear someone say that has nothing to do with vanity. In fact, it has nothing to do with my external appearance at all. I have found the key to that glow is a simple approach to life:

Give love, omit worry.

When you learn to “give love” and “omit worry,” your perspective on everything changes. You no longer obsess about minutiae or try to change other people or circumstances over which you have no control. Let’s break it down into two parts.

Give Love

When it comes to people and situations that agree with us and our opinions, this is pleasurable and, as a result, easy to do. But what of the people and situations that challenge your spirit? Analyze how you give love during those times. I have had to make a conscious effort to do this when dealing with two people in particular. I have known one of the people for years and once considered the two of us to be extremely close. I have only known the other person for a matter of days. This reveals challenges in life know no boundaries because it is all the same. It is all energy. Rather than allowing hurt inflicted by others to infect me and shape how I move about the world, I consider that they, too, have been hurt at some point in their lives. I consider that the situations in which I felt hurt were not truly about me. It was about them. I have come to terms with things and decided that I will not give either of those people more of my precious energy. Returning their negativity would be futile and it would only drain me and leave me with less energy for my purpose and my path. Instead I give them love them from a distance and move on with my life.

Omit Worry
The most we can achieve is control over ourselves. Our speech. Our thought. Our actions and reactions. Why concern ourselves with anything else? Does this mean that you don’t have to deal with the typical issues of life? It could mean that for you. Many people give up earthly pleasures, careers, money and the like in the quest for truth, choosing spiritual over material. That could be your path.
I had a conversation about this with a wonderful man I know – a man more brother than friend. “But what about bills?” he asked me. Great question. It is also, I believe, an easy way to stifle your spiritual evolution. The unwilling mind says, “I don’t have time… I don’t have energy… I don’t have…” I don’t believe you must forfeit everything to seek truth. You must simply understand bills aren’t everything. Your career, your spouse, your children, your responsibilities, your likes, dislikes, and more are not nor should they be everything. That is the point. When you understand this – not with your head but with your spirit – worry is alleviated.
Like anything else in life, there will be an ebb and flow of your G.L.O.W. There will be times in your life when it dims and there will be times when it burns beyond bright. Give love, omit worry and allow it to come out of you. Just beware of a side effect: Doing so will encourage others to shine, too. Be ready for the light to fill your life!
Love,

Image: dan / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Sunday Sunset: Relationships

In Lifestyle, Love/Relationships, Spirituality on January 8, 2012 at 11:23 pm

Today marks the start of a weekly feature on this blog. Each Sunday in 2012 around sunset (CST), I will post a video. The videos will be inspiring, enlightening and positive. My prayer is that they will give you a bit of energy as you end one week and begin another.

Here is the first of the year. It is powerful and if you listen with your heart, you will hear an incredible message.

Love,

Use Your Sixth Sense to Find Your Purpose and Your Path

In Lifestyle, Love/Relationships, Spirituality on January 5, 2012 at 5:40 pm
We went over the five senses, but today we will consider the sixth. Your sixth sense is better known as your intuition. I believe that your sixth sense becomes stronger when you pay more attention to the other five senses. Just as you can hone them and increase how much you tune in to what you hear, see, touch, taste and smell, you can also increase your visceral intuition. There are many ways that you can do this.
Pray and Meditate
Let me first say that I view these two important practices as intertwined yet quite separate. I pondered this for quite some time and what came to me is prayer is more external while meditation is more internal. For me, both link me to my Creator, The Universe, God, etc… Whatever you prefer to call the origin and provider of life and energy.
When you pray, you turn outside of yourself. You might ask for favor, protection, clarity. Another important purpose of prayer is to express gratitude for all that you have and all that you don’t have. On the other hand when you meditate, you turn inside of yourself. You focus on your breath, a thought, a mantra, etc… and shut out the world. Doing this will allow you to regain focus and to know your purpose. Both practices are important for healing and resilience. They put you in touch with yourself and your creator, allowing you to become grounded. When you become grounded, intuition flows freely through your spirit and all traces of self-doubt dissipate.
Take Leaps of Faith

Leap and the net will appear.”  - John Burroughs

What is the best way to increase the strength and definition of your muscles? Exercise. You have to use them or they atrophy and you become weak. In the same way, the best way to increase your intuition is to use it. Not doing so will eventually cause you to become weak in spirit and in thought. You will become depressed and it will be far easier for others to mislead you. This is not because you don’t recognize things for what they are but because you don’t have faith in who you are. I have been there many times. It has only been through painful introspection and the sloughing away of what seemed comfortable that I have discovered what is real and true for me. It is through such dark periods that each of us has the the chance to find the purpose and the path for this life. If you have a feeling about a person or a set of circumstances, go with your gut. No matter the outcome, you will find that you are at peace with if you followed your inner rudder and did what you felt was best at the time. It doesn’t mean you will never make mistakes or that you won’t need to change course. You will just as I will. But a leap of faith allows you to grow and evolve into the person you are meant to become. You will never find your life’s purpose until you leap, and you will never understand — let alone appreciate — success until you experience failure.

Remain Positive

Seems simple enough. Unfortunately, for many of us, this exercise is the most difficult of them all. It is hard because it requires that you relinquish the facade of power. Many people will say, “Give it over to God…” Whether you believe in God or not, this principal is applicable. Even if you don’t think there is a God to whom you can give your worries or fears, you can still release them into the ether when you decide to do so. You can only control what you can control. That begins and ends with you. Rather than worry about other people, situations, jobs, bills, etc… use that energy to nurture yourself while you deal with those people, those situations, those issues at the office, the mortgage, etc… You are energy. Nothing more or less. When your energy takes on a different form and you are no long walking the earth in the shell you wear right now, none of those things will matter. What will matter is the legacy you leave. Use your intuition to guide you on the right path and your your legacy will consist of light and love, both of which will always live on, too.

Love,

Image: markuso / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

Awaken Your Senses and Change Your Life

In Beauty, Fashion/Style, Lifestyle, Spirituality on January 3, 2012 at 5:42 pm

Do you rely on your senses when you interact with other people? If you are fortunate enough to have one, a few or all five of your senses, do you make good use them?

I encourage you to hone your senses, exercising them to strengthen them to help guide you through your journey through life. Today we will delve a bit into how we can do that. Tomorrow we will analyze what we can manifest when we approach life in this way.

Sight - Pay careful attention to what you watch. Take an inventory of your spirit and how it is affected by images you encounter while moving around the world, watching movies, television or even the words you read. Most of us don’t have the ability to shut out all negative images, but you can limit them. You can also combat them with positive images. Take a walk outside and observe nature. Notice the beauty of the world around you. Complete a project that lends beauty and positivity to your home. This is a picture of a photo frame collage project I did a little over a week ago. I purchased the frames at Ikea ($1.99 ea), ordered the 5×7 prints in black-and-white from Walgreens.com ($1.79 ea) and picked them up in the store within a hour or so. I also bought the pots from Ikea ($5.99) and filled them with moss and greenery from Michaels ($6). For less than $50, I created something that makes me smile many times a day, especially when I see the pictures of my precious nephews. Fill your space with things that make you smile from the inside out, too.

Hearing - I often discuss the power of words. Thoughts are things, only in the very early stages. Think of them as the blueprint for your life. The words you think and speak might as well be bricks and mortar. The life you build will be a direct reflection of the plans you draw in your mind and the words you conjure and put out into the world through thought and speech. Choose your thoughts and words with care. If you find yourself in the company of people who speak negative things into their life and into yours, cut off those relationships. It might not be easy, but it is imperative to your spiritual well-being.

Taste - Have you ever done a detox and limited meat, sugar, and processed foods? If you have, you can attest to the fact that your cravings and taste buds truly can change in just a matter of days. Within days of eating a clean diet, you will notice something might be too sweet or you can taste the chemicals in a processed food product. This is your body’s way of directing you to eat what you need. If you have never been one to eat fresh fruits and vegetables, be patient with yourself as you become acclimated to different foods. Juicing and smoothies is a great way to incorporate the benefits of healthful food into your diet. I will share recipes for some of my favorites in the weeks to come.

Touch - Human beings need touch. We crave it. From the time that we are conceived, our neurons are designed to know pain from pleasure. Without touch, newborns face more health challenges and delays. That need never fades. Be open to giving and receiving hugs when you see family and friends. Use those moments of intimacy to reconnect with them and with yourself. Another great option is to schedule regular massages. You can also find providers who specialize in healing touch. You can find a certified practitioner online. Here is one search option to find one near you.

Smell - Aromatherapy has been used for thousands of years. Ancient Egyptians burned incense and wore fragrant oils. All of these years later, I do those things, too. There is something soothing about the swirl of sweet scents. Scented oils can calm or exhilarate depending on which you choose. They also provide  a layer of protection to your skin against cold and sun. I recommend adding essential oils to shea butter and using that to seal in the moisture of your hair, skin and nails in the winter. If you have fine hair, you can still use this on your locks. Simply do so sparingly, using a small amount every few days as needed. For thick, kinky-curly-coily manes such as mine, use as much and as often as necessary to prevent dryness and breakage. I use shea butter daily.
When you fine tune your senses, you will notice a change in how you perceive the world as well as a change in how you are perceived. Rather than just subsisting and going through the motions, wake up your senses and experience your life to the fullest.

Love,

 

 

Thoughts Are Things: Do You Think Good Ones?

In Lifestyle, Love/Relationships, Spirituality on January 2, 2012 at 4:52 pm

When you consider where you are in your life, what words come to mind? Take an inventory of those words. Do you see a pattern? Are they negative? Are they positive? Do they tear down or build up your self-worth?

How you talk about yourself in your mind and the words you use to describe yourself to others correlates with everything that you experience in your life. Thoughts truly are things and regardless of whether you choose to fill your life with words that uplift or defeat, the outcome will be exactly what you create.

Here are some ways to turn up the positive thoughts and to shut down the negative one:

Put a Pen to Pad – You have probably heard this advice many times. Keeping a journal is a great release for many. It also requires consistency and discipline, two things required to make any lasting spiritual or physical changes in your life. Don’t think that you have to buy a special book to jot down your thoughts if you’re not ready for that. You can also create a Google document or a Word document and express yourself there. Another option for people who have the spiritual gift of writing is to create your own blog. Yes, there are tons of them, but so what? There are also lots of people but no two are exactly alike. Blogging is cathartic and can help other people at the same time.

Pass Notes – Grab your sticky note pad and a black marker (a medium point works best) and write down EVERYTHING you want out of life. Put one expectation on each sticky note. Put the notes on your bathroom mirror. Read each one each time you are at the sink to brush your teeth or wash your hands or your face. For an even more powerful experience, read them aloud. I do this and  meditate on them while I get dressed in the morning and while I get ready for bed at night. I promise the transformation you experience as a result of this exercise will amaze you, even before you think you are ready for the changes. See that picture up there? I did this spiritual exercise toward the end of fall 2011 when I was going through a major life change. It allowed me to re-focus and take the necessary (but painful) steps to get to the next level in my journey.

Reach out – When was the last time you took a moment to write a letter to someone? Not a text, no e-mail, no pre-written card on which you’ve scratched your name. A true, handwritten note. Try it today. Draft a letter to a loved one and express to them how much they mean to you and why. This is a powerful exercise because it allows you to give positive energy away which in turn brings so much goodness back into your life and your spirit. Send your love to your mate, a grandparent, a parent, a sibling, a friend, or anyone else who has had a positive impact on your life today and you will both reap the blessings tomorrow.

None of this is magic. The definition of magic is “The power of apparently influencing the course of events by using mysterious or supernatural forces.” There is nothing “mysterious” about this.  However the rest of that definition applies, in case you had any doubt. You do have influence over your life. Reclaim that power and don’t allow anyone else or any set of circumstances to dictate who and what you are. The power belongs to you.

Always remember your word is your wand. Wield it with precision and create the life you envision for yourself.

Love,

 

Another day and another year to evolve

In Lifestyle, Spirituality on January 1, 2012 at 6:11 pm

The first day of any new year seems so special, doesn’t it? We plan for it, take off from work in honor of it, and tend to create traditions to celebrate it. But I think there is something unique and even more special about today. Do you feel it? Something has shifted within my energy and I am so glad for that change. Now, more than ever before, I see all people – be they “friends” or “foes” – as teachers and all circumstances – be they “good” or “bad” –  as lessons. Every interaction is a chance to learn if we only “get out of our own heads” as a very wise woman and dear friend puts it.

Some say that whatever you do on New Year’s Day is what you will do for the rest of the year. I believe that is true, not because I’m superstitious but because I believe in Charles C. Noble’s observation: “First we make our habits and then our habits make us.” This morning, I made some healthful, traditional food (black-eyed peas and sauteed collards) and took Bella for a long walk. NoiPhone. No music. Just me and my girl enjoying the sound of leaves rustling on a sunny, brisk day. It was so peaceful and so perfect. I found my center, and focused on gratitude. I felt grateful for breath, mobility, a free spirit, family, friends, purpose, energy, and so much more.

As I reached the halfway point of my walk through my neighborhood, I noticed an older woman standing in the driveway of a home up ahead. She seemed to wait for something or someone as she stared into the garage. I then saw a man who I suspect was her husband. He brought a bike down the steep driveway, guiding it by the handle bars, and placed it next to her. It was a three-wheeled bicycle. I don’t know why, but there was something about it that was so endearing. The woman climbed on the bike, sat for a moment to get her bearings, I suppose, and pedaled on to the street, heading toward me as I walked in the opposite direction. The look on her face was pure joy. Her crinkly eyes sparkled in the January air and her wrinkled, speckled face and hands soaked up the sun. It seemed as though she had been waiting for a long time to get back on her bike. It was so obvious that she appreciated it. The man who brought the bike out of the garage to her stood in the driveway and stared at the woman as she rode off down the street and around the corner. I waved hello to him and saw that he, too, had a kind face with sparkling, crinkly eyes. It made my heart smile.

I don’t know that woman or that man and I don’t know their story. But I do know that what I witnessed this morning was a special human experience. They were both teachers and the lessons I received were: 1. It is never too early in the day (or the year) or too late in your life to appreciate the beauty of simple things. 2. Find joy in helping other people find their joy, even if you aren’t meant to tag along for that part of their journey.

This year and every year, I pray that you and I relish all that this life has to offer. Let us be observant and conscious of how we move in the world because we matter and we will leave a legacy, whether or not we try. We will all inspire something in someone today. Make it something positive. Why not make a habit of that, while we’re at it?

Happy New Year to you. Do and be well today and the rest of your days.

Love,

Image: Sura Nualpradid / FreeDigitalPhotos.net

 

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